Fun Date Ideas

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Go on an appreciation dinner date. Before you take each bite of food or each sip from your drink, tell your spouse something you appreciate about him or her or something you appreciate that he or she has done recently or in the past.

Start a photo kissing album. Have your picture taken while kissing in front of famous landmarks, in front of churches, restaurants, hotels, etc. 

Help serve dinner together at a homeless shelter.



Get to know your neighbors by doing a service scavenger hunt. Do all of these activities together and as soon as you reach 100 points then stop and reward yourself with some ice cream.
Vacuum a room 10 points
Wash a sink full of dishes 15 points
Wash a window 5 points
Sweep a porch 10 points
Sweep a walk way 10 points
Clean a toilet 30 points
Pull some weeds 10 points
Dust some furniture 10 points
Wash a car 30 points
Make dinner 40 points
Shake out some rugs 10 points
Walk their dog 20 points
 If you come up with additional ideas for the Service Scavenger Hunt send them to info@healthymarriage.org and we will add them to the website.

Plant a tree together.

Ask your grandparents or parents what their favorite date was and if possible recreate it with your spouse.

Make a date time capsule. Include items from some recent dates and open it in 5 years.

Go on a massage date. Set aside an hour for each person and give each other a full body massage.



Bake your favorite desserts together.

Buy two pocket remote control cars and race them at your local park. 

Go to your local children's hospital and read books to the kids.



Eat dinner in a canoe or rowboat.



Have a candle light dinner on top of a building and watch the movie Kate and Leopold. 



Go to the park and swing on the swings, slide down the slide, play on the teeter-totter. Basically leave your pride in the car and just act like kids again.



Go to a school and play a game of tetherball. You may need to bring your own ball.



Go to a park and set up your own game of Frisbee golf. Chose objects to hit with the Frisbee and decide how many throws you should get in order to make par.

Play a game of miniature golf in your house or neighborhood. Use large plastic cups that you lay on their side for the "holes"

Play a regular game of miniature golf.

Watch the sunset together.

Pretend you are a fashion photographer and do a photo shoot of your spouse at a scenic location.



Visit a video game arcade and play the games together.

Go to a driving range course and hit a bucket of golf balls together.

Visit a retirement home and read your favorite book to a resident who no longer sees and never gets visitors.



Plant some flowers for an older neighbor in their yard.

Go to a basketball game.



Set up a lemonade stand and donate all the proceeds to www.alexslemonade.com to help fight pediatric cancer.



Design your dream tree house together.

Test drive your dream car together.



Take a video camera to a public place and interview people about what they view as the most pressing problem the city has.

Go to a drive in movie. If you can't find one drive to a romatic location and watch a movie on your portable DVD player in your car.

Go on a memory dinner date. Both of you should take 10 minutes before the date starts to write down a keyword that reminds you of fun memories you have had together. Cut out each keyword and place it in your pocket or purse. During dinner take turns pulling out a keyword and sharing that memory.



Attend a student concert at your local college or high school.

Go to a bagel shop and brainstorm with each other on how to solve world hunger.



Visit a crafts store and sign up for one of the craft class projects to do together.



Race go carts together.



Make a video documentary about life as a cab driver, police officer, hot dog vendor etc. Come up with a list of questions together and then make the video.



Visit an antique shop and make up stories about the first owners of the items.



Visit a romantic spot together and write a poem about your spouse.

Even if you have no artistic skills buy some crayons and take turns modeling and drawing a picture of each other in a scenic spot.





Go out for pastries and brainstorm how to help strengthen marriages in your community.





Donate blood together.





Plan a picnic that you can turn into a food fight.



TGo to a thrift shop and buy the most outrageous outfits you can find and go on a date in them. 

Dress up as clowns and entertain people in a public area.



Go on a date to a cookie shop. Brainstorm how you might fix the tax system



Go to a donut shop and brainstorm how to help inner-city kids go to college.

Make plans for your 50th wedding anniversay. Even if it's 49 years away.

Go on a retirement date by talking about your dream retirement, your realistic retirement and how you are going to make it happen,



Ask your spouse out on a "High School Senior Prom" date.



Go to an ice cream shop and brainstorm how to make your city a safer place to live.



Go out on date Versions for building an emotional connection:

1.) Go on a scavenger hunt in a park. You could use easter eggs or little containers that have pieces of paper inside descripting what to do or say. Some variations could be questions you have to think up on your own right on the spot, or questions that have to do with “getting to know” your spouse more passionately since this is all about reconnecting together and finding that connection to bring a couple closer. The hunt should also include new ways of searching or finding. if you find an egg that says to “act” in a certain way, then that is how you would find the next clue.

2.) Take a Nature Hike: come up with different things in nature that are beautiful. Bring a camera and take pictures of those things that catch your eye over the other things you normally see day to day in nature. Try to become one with nature and connect to the earth by becoming more centered. Take a pause and lay on the grass, close your eyes and focus on your breathing. The flow of the breath should help you to relax and feel the earth beneath you.  It is important that you take time to not focus on those things that can be distracting. By having one on one time it helps you to reconnect better as a couple. Try this exercise by continuing to lay on the ground but lay on your spouse’s chest, feel their breath as it rises and falls, and become in sync with their breathing. When you are both breathing together you can be more centered as a couple. After you’ve captured nature pictures and are centered with the earth, you can take the time to really talk together and improve on the overall quality of the relationship you share. Make it meaningful to be in nature and enjoy the beautiful things around you. The next week try to make sure you focus on the simple little things that are most beautiful. Beauty is everywhere and it helps love to flourish.

3.) Our sense of safety needs to come from within just like it comes from external factors. More often than not, we need to become the person who is consistently accepting, caring and compassionate with ourselves. It’s a matter of becoming strong enough within to not take another's bad day personally. Couples have to be cultivating this within their relationship. Take some time to practice acceptance and compassion for yourselves, and as a couple, which will then naturally extend to others. Go out on a date to a place where you can both give service together. This will naturally bring you both closer to build your emotional intimacy.

4.) The key is to practice staying connected with a source of spiritual guidance (whatever that is for you specifically) during the peaceful times, so that when the fear and conflicts arise, you have a source available to you and it can bring comfort through the harder times. None of us can stay open by ourselves. Take time to plan a date where you can develop your spiritual wellness go to a church and take time to learn about another religion. This will help both of you to realize the bond that God can create between two people. The more a couple takes time to create inner relationship safety, then he safer we feel with our partner, the freer we feel to share our joy and pain with each other. This is what leads to connection and intimacy.

5.) Find common interests and pursue them together. For example, go out and dance. If one spouse doesn’t know how, go and take lessons together. But you have to do it together, because that is the key. If you each have something that interests you personally but not together step outside of your comfort zone and take that time to learn that interest your spouse has. When each person sacrifices their own needs or interests and pursues some new ones, the bonds between a couple can improve. The concept is “you give a little, and I’ll give a little” that is what to strive for in hopes of pursuing new interests together.